Hello beautiful people,
I want to share something with you that I have recently learnt. It is that for me I have only recently seen how different I am from people who are younger than me. Now I know that this is not something that is particularly unique to me but it has really been put into perspective for me these past couple of weeks.
I know that for me with age has come an inability to understand why anyone would want to make drama. I mean whats the point? I really do not have the energy or time to commit to maintaining such things. And honestly what does it achieve? Has anyone actually benefited in anyway from totally unnecessary drama. You know what instead of making drama how about we just tell people how we feel and leave it at that. And ultimately just get over it, all anyone wants is to be liked and loved so why not put your energy into that.
Also there is this expectation that I should just know about your business when you yourself have made no effort to inform me on such matters. Now I am aware that we live in a very connected society but if you think that I know whats going on with everyone every second of every day then you are sadly mistaken. I don’t think it helps that I am a very low key kind of friend, I prefer the hands off approach. I have done needy and its not a good look on me. This does not mean that if you come up to me and ask for my help or confide in me that I will not be there for you. I do really care about my friends but have found its better for everyone if you are not always up in people business. At the end of the day your private life is private for a reason and it is for you to share with who you see fit.
You also become aware of who is good for you and who is not. Some people are like paintings pretty to look at but they are just superficial. Then there are people who might look like a flower on the outside but then you realise its a snake. Now I have been guilty of being the later of these things and I try very hard not to be that person and if asked I will tell people to their face that I have probably spoken about them when they are not around but then name one person who hasn’t spoken about some one behind their back. I think with age comes the ability to compartmentalise the way that you feel about someone. It is possible in my opinion to both find someone annoying in one scenario and a complete joy to be around in another situation. Does this mean that I don’t like them? Absolutely not.
I also think that with age comes the ability to see that there are normally 2 sides to every story even if the second side backs up the first. I think we all live in a society that is very quick to judge and also very quick to dismiss people who we do not perceive as being there for us when we want them. Sometimes there are just people who are bad and lazy and we should acknowledge that these people are probably not the best for our health. However there are times when people may have been through something in their past and they made a promise to themselves that they would try to be free of that in later life. I find that if someone doesn’t react the way that you want its normally either because they are naive, ignorant or sometimes the just don’t care. But as humans we are all guilty of only seeing what it is that we want to see and never asking why?
There is this misconception that with age comes maturity and I can tell you that this is not always the case. But with age certainly comes an adjusted sense of what it is that you want and what it is that you are willing to put up with.